Always Love.

Always Love.

To make a mountain of your life
Is just a choice
But I never learned enough
To listen to the voice that told me
Always love, Hate will get you every time
Always love, Don't wait til the finish line

Slow demands come 'round
Squeeze the air and keep the rest out
It helps to write it down
Even when you then cross it out

But Always Love, Hate will get you every time
Always Love even when you want to fight

Self-directed lives
I want to know what it'd be like to
Aim so high above
Any card that has been dealt you

Always Love
Hate will get you every time
Always love
Hate will get you

I've been held back by something
Yeah. You said to me quietly on the stairs,
I've been held back by something
Yeah. You said to me quietly on the stairs.
You said
Hey, you good ones.
Hey, you good ones.

To make a mountain of your life
Is just a choice
But I never learned enough
To listen to the voice that told me
Always love hate will get you every time
Always love hate will get you

I've been held back by something
Yeah, You said to me quietly on the stairs,
I've been held back by something
Yeah, You said to me quietly on the stairs
You said..
Hey, you good ones
Hey, you good ones
Hey, you good ones 

Always Love – Nada Surf.

“I have always depended on the kindness of strangers.” Cat on a Hot Tin Roof. Tennessee Williams.

Sometimes the kindness of a stranger can be just as sincere and meaningful as that of a friend. And then perhaps you’ve found yourself a new friend. Let’s not talk about the day or the conclusions that may or may not be drawn. That’s what everyone does. Let’s all be different for a change. 

Always love. Hate is a product of fear. Anytime you are feeling angry, hateful, vengeful… basically anytime you are feeling a negative emotion that binds you are merely afraid. Any product created out of that negativity is produced by fear. Want some perspective? Wars are created out of fear. People are afraid that there isn’t enough to go around so they attack each other to eliminate the competition instead of reaching out to help. Reaching out has its rewards and some people are experiencing the benefit of doing that first hand right now. I love that and it’s amazing. Participating makes a difference but not unless you help yourself first. You must find love for love to find you. Meaning you have to be able to look in the mirror and love what you see first. Take a picture if it helps. Sometimes the mirror lies. Bottom line: You can not save anyone else, without saving yourself first.  Once you have filled that need, you will only want to give it back out.

“Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, it's at the end of your arm, as you get older, remember you have another hand: The first is to help yourself, the second is to help others.” Audrey Hepburn.

Why? What? How? Indeed. The perspectives I’ve immersed myself in, have been constructively dark. It isn’t ready to be discussed but in any event, there has to be a balance. You can’t toss that all out there without a balance. Life moves in circles. Those circles sometimes take us away from those we care about and love dearly. Our friends, families and significant others – boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses. We miss them sometimes. It’s hard. But that’s life. And it doesn’t mean that you care for them any less. There’s no need to act out or behave badly when attention is desired. Often hate is misguided instead of love and cruel actions can persist. Just because someone isn’t happy how you want them to be doesn’t make their joy any less beautiful. And if anyone wants attention… say so. Tell that person directly. Pick up the phone, drop by or find a way to reach them that puts you in direct contact. But talk about it. Don’t act out. They aren’t going anywhere.

Remember the golden rule. And it isn’t “speak softly and carry a big stick” although that does help sometimes but not right now.  It’s the other one: “Do unto others as you would have done unto yourself.” We all have bad days. It’s no excuse for mistreating anyone. Don’t walk up and kick someone unless you want to get it back. Think about why you want to do this. Think: “Why am I hurting this person? I love this person for being in my life [as my friend, family or etc], they are nice to me and I shouldn’t hurt them. ” You do not need to get anyone before they get you. Acting out is the fear taking over. Whenever you feel it coming up: Stop. Take a deep breath. Cry if necessary. Get upset if you have to. Ultimately try to figure out what you’re scared of and why it’s manifesting.  It may seem hard in the beginning.  But you have to talk yourself back from the ledge. Eventually there won’t be a ledge or a reason for the fear to arise. And maybe, just maybe you won’t take a swing at someone you care about.

Always love. Look for and be the kindness in strangers. To my friends, I miss you dearly but everything is ok and I hope all is well in your corners of the world. Big Kisses. little kisses. Hot kisses. Nose kisses. Green kisses. Steamy kisses. Dancing kisses. Drinking kisses. Airy kisses. VERY kisses. Soft gentle kisses. Romantic epic kisses. Kisses for everyone. m.